Love yourself before loving another sounds simple right? Well in this day and age, it's really not. With people tearing each other a part via social media and etc, it's truly hard sometimes to love yourself without being judged. This blog post is inspired by Rebel Wilson's new movie, Isn't It Romantic. Just a heads up, spoilers are in this blog post. If you are wanting to see the movie stop reading now.
In the movie, Rebel's character, Natalie, is taught from an early age that she will never be like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman or find a man that looks at her like Ben looks at Andi from How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. From that moment, she lives life not believing in herself and lets people walk all over. Doesn't sound like the typical start to a Rom Com. After trying to be more open to trying different things, she gets mugged and hits her head. As she awoke from her slumber, she finds herself in an alternate universe where guys can't stop looking at her and being told how "beguiling" she is.
Natalie thinks she meant to make a guy a fall in love with her, but in the end to leave this alternate universe she learns that she needed to love herself instead. Deep right! Not the typical rom com ending to say the least.
I've been single for many years and people might think it's a problem, but I didn't find it to be until others started being more vocal about it. When you ask someone why are you single or why aren't you trying to find someone, isn't great for self-esteem. You then starting thinking about it more and makes you question yourself. Am I not pretty enough? Do I not look approachable? Do I have a horrible personality? I know this because I was one of those girls. Yes, was and not currently. I used to be that girl that sat at a bar and just would go out dancing with my friends. I didn't have a care in the world if I met a guy that night. Once moving to Denver, I started questioning myself after people made comments to me about why I wasn't dating someone. Colorado is man mecca, so finding a guy is apparently easy. I started becoming unhappy with myself in the end and I truly didn't love myself- not in a depressing way. I just didn't look at myself as pretty anymore.
2019 became that change for me in the end to love myself more because a guy can only give so much love in end. What if that guy leaves and you're back in square one? You still need to show continuous love for yourself because you always have yourself in the end. Towards the end of the movie, Natalie was stating all the amazing aspects about herself - to show the guy she loves - how AWESOME she really is. That's when she realized how beautiful, funny and talented she is. She needed to believe it because the guy already knew it.
That's what women need to be thinking about if they are ready to be in love. Instead of jumping in and scoping to find "the one", it won't happen until they truly love themselves. Nothing is more sexy than a confident woman, who knows how "beguiling" she really is.
Now cue the rom com dance number and happy ending!